What are my best tips for happy fat sex? Okay. So here are my tips for happy fat sex. Number one, the more ashamed you feel of your body, the less good your sex is going to be. There has actually been a ton of research about the ways that particularly people socialized as women […]
How can I rebuild desire after NRE? New Relationship Energy. So, I mean this question for me is kind of an interesting one, because I guess I'm wondering like what kind of desire are we talking about, and like what's the issue? A lot of people when they're in NRE, they have a ton of […]
What is the difference between swinging and polyamory? Now I'm going to answer this in very general terms. Everybody who does swinging, everybody who does polyamory does it a little bit differently. So, in general, swinging is a thing that is practiced by couples wherein they have generally only sexual interactions with other singles or […]
What should I do if I really don't like my metamour? I'm such a therapist. I'm like, I have questions about your questions. So, what do you mean by you really don't like your metamour and like what do you need to do? Here's the thing. I think that people assume that polyamory can only […]
How do I handle family who vote against me? Okay, so there's no right answer here. I think that the questions to ask yourself are, what kind of relationship can you feel good about having with the people who they are? If someone is willing to vote for someone who thinks that you don't deserve […]
How do you bring up your need for desire without making your partner feel guilty or how can I bring that up without seeming like I’m ignoring their needs or that they are busy? People ask me a lot of times like how can I do X without making my partner feel Y? And the […]
Can trust truly be rebuilt? I like this question and I think that this is a complicated question because the thing about trust is that it is way easier to build trust from zero than it is to rebuild trust once it has been broken because when we start building trust with someone, you start […]
Some people claim that an actual therapist would suggest chemical castration is too taboo as a sexual fantasy. Is that true? I'm sure someone could find an edge case that would make this untrue, but I don't think that there's such a thing as like too taboo for a fantasy. Too taboo to enact in […]
How do I know if my relationship is just hard or becoming toxic? So, every relationship can be hard. Every relationship can be challenging. And I think if you don't understand why it is hard, if it feels confusing, if you feel like you don't understand what these fights are about, you don't know how […]
How can I combat internalized homophobia as a queer person? So, I think that whenever we're looking at unpacking our internalized societal biases, there are a lot of things that are helpful to different people. But I think step one is always about developing recognition of when that internalized bigotry is coloring, influencing, or driving […]
