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Book Recommendations List

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Authentic Kink: Create Your Best Experience by Princess Kali

Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Conflict is Not Abuse by Sarah Schulman

The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Connection by Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Intimacy by Harriet Lerner

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Designer Relationships by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson

The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton

The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Gender Magic by Rae McDaniel

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

How to Be a Woman by Caitlin Moran

The Husband Swap by Louisa Leontiades

The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola

The Joy of Conflict Resolution by Gary Harper

Love’s Not Colorblind by Kevin Patterson

Messages: The Communication Skills Book by Matthew McKay

More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

The New Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton

The New Topping Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

Off the Relationship Escalator by Amy Gahran

Open by Jenny Block

Opening Up by Tristan Taormino

Outdated by Samhita Mukhopadhyay

The Polyamorists Next Door by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

Relationship Agreements by Eri Kardos-Patel

Rewriting the Rules by Meg-John Barker

Righteous Discontent by Evelyn Brooks Higginbotham

Rising Strong by Brené Brown

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

Sex From Scratch by Sarah Mirk

The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory by Dedeker Winston

Stories from the Polycule by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

What Love Is and What It Could Be by Carrie Jenkins

Why Have Kids? by Jessica Valenti

Why Won’t You Apologize by Harriet Lerner

Polysecure by Jessica Fern


General Websites

More Than Two (Blog)

Solopoly (blog)

Kimchi Cuddles (non-monogamy comics)

Cuddlist (professional cuddling)

Polyamorous Misanthrope (advice)

I’m Poly and So Can You (advice)

The Radical Poly Agenda (blog)

The Selfish Activist (social justice)

Polyamory in the News

Joreth InnKeeper’s site (blog)

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s site

Talking About Sex (resources for those with kids)

Off the Relationship Escalator (blog and solopoly information)

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Open Relationship Resources and the Open List

Specific Posts

Joreth’s Relationship Commitments

The Word Privilege is Being Used in Two Ways by Siderea

Why It’s Painful And Scary To Talk About Transformative Justice, and Why It’s Time by Andy I

Building Up, Not Tearing Down by Franklin Veaux

Polyamory and Statistics, or “Why haven’t we found our third yet?” by Maxine

Love is Not Enough by Mark Manson

Dr. Evelin Dacker’s STARS model for safer sex conversations

Reid Mihalko’s safer sex elevator speech

But What Does Solo Poly Even Mean by Joreth InnKeeper

Can Polyamorous Hierarchies Be Ethical? Part 1 by Eve Rickert

Can Polyamorous Hierarchies Be Ethical? Part 2 by Eve Rickert

Yes, Abuse Can Show Up in Polyamorous Relationships by Ginny Brown

Abuse in Polyamorous Relationships by Shea Emma Fett

The Misagreement by Jeana Jorgensen


Life on the Swingset

Polyamory Weekly


Disability After Dark

American Sex Podcast

Sex Gets Real

Bawdy Storytelling

Modern Love

Death, Sex & Money

Sex Nerd Sandra (Archived Only)

The Dildorks

Chronic Sex


Sex Out Loud



Loving Without Boundaries


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